The Gift of a Multigenerational Church

Steven Lee

Pastor for Preaching & Vision

Dear North Church,

Most of us are familiar with these phrases meant to dismiss someone older or younger than us.

“OK, boomer!”

“Stop being a snowflake.”

“You’re so stuck in your ways.”

“Back in my day, we were tougher than that.”

“You’re so out of touch and backwards.”

“You don’t get a trophy just for showing up.”

Hopefully none of us use these insults, but intergenerational tension is real. We may experience these tensions in our family, workplace, neighborhoods, and even in the church. The world you grew up in is very different from the one your parents or grandparents experienced, and it’s easy to look down on the generations that follow you.

At church on Sunday, I saw an older man and his wife. He was using a walker because of a lower-body procedure (e.g., a hip or knee replacement). He shared that he was using the walker because our church hallways are full of children. Despite our encouragement for children to walk in the hallways, he used the walker just in case. He didn’t begrudge the fact that children filled the halls; in fact, he was celebrating this “good problem” that we have.

This simple exchange highlighted the beauty of our multigenerational church family. On Sunday, we celebrated the birth of several new babies into our church family. We have bustling children’s and youth ministries. We have college students, young adults, and newly married couples. And we have dozens of families, young and old, and many mature and older saints.

If you come on a Wednesday evening, you’ll notice that many of the people in the gym are young families with children who then rush off to choirs and classes. Many of those who serve in the kitchen and clean the dishes are volunteers who no longer have children in the home. It’s a beautiful portrayal of 1 Corinthians 12.

Paul teaches that we are one body, but we are made up of many members. Christ is our head, and every member of this church family is indispensable. We need the young and the old, the strong and the weak, the mature and those growing, those with special needs, families doing well, those who are struggling, newborn infants, and those in their later years. We need the single parents, the blended families, the immigrants, and both the rich and the poor.

Our aim is not diversity for its own sake, but to reflect the saving power of the gospel at work in the lives of all people. Paul teaches, “The eye cannot say to the hand, ‘I have no need of you,’ nor again the head to the feet, ‘I have no need of you’” (1 Cor 12:21). Rather, the good gift of the church family is that we have a diversity of people who are all united around our shared love for and allegiance to Jesus by faith.

So next time you’re at church, remember that you’re not just here to consume but to participate as a member of this body. We exist to suffer and rejoice with others, to minister to someone in need, to bring a meal as an expression of care, to pray for someone struggling, and to cultivate the warmth that characterizes the people of God.

So join me in thanking God for one another, both those like us and those unlike us, and let’s continue to be a family of God where we value, love, and care for one another, and thank God for the good design of his church body.

With affection,

Pastor Steven