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Steven Lee
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0:19Let me invite you to join me as I pray. Father, your word is life and light when it's rightly understood and rightly obeyed. So by your spirit, help me to preach it clearly so that we would understand it fully and obey it completely for your glory and for our joy. We pray this in Jesus' name. Amen. My wife likes to tell me that my favorite animal is the elephant in the room. So let me just get right to it. I just prayed publicly, which I do every week before I preach the sermon. Pastor Jason just prayed publicly before and after the welcome and at the end of the covenant affirmation, we just had a prayer of praise in this service which was prayed publicly.

1:18So at the end of this sermon, I will pray once again in this service, no less we will have prayed six times publicly. And yet in Jesus teaching in Matthew six, five through eight this morning, he warns against praying in public in order to be seen by others. So are we just a bunch of hypocrites this morning? Are you a hypocrite every time you pray with your small group, with your Sunday school class, with your family at mealtime with your spouse in the evening or whenever you attend a prayer meeting? I hope not this morning. We wanna see more clearly. Jesus teaching on prayer. Prayer is this massive topic, isn't it?

2:11It can feel mysterious and confounding at times. It can raise all sorts of questions in our hearts. If God knows all, why do I pray at all? Why doesn't God speak back audibly? That would be much more convenient or at least a text message. How exactly does prayer quote unquote work? Why do some prayers go unanswered? I recently read the conversion story of a skeptical philosopher. He was the co-founder of Wikipedia and he spoke of prayer in this way when prior to coming to Faith. He said, after I had lost my faith as a child, I nevertheless continued occasionally pretending to dialogue with a supremely wise being about various issues in my life.

3:01It was a kind of therapy, a kind of play pretend with an imaginary friend. Some of you feel like that this morning prayer is nothing more than therapy, self-directed therapy pretending with an imaginary friend. But what does Jesus teach about prayer and what does he warn us against this morning? Jesus turns to teach his disciples how not to pray. That's what our section of scripture is about five to eight. And then he follows this with how to pray in the Lord's Prayer nine through 15, we're gonna just look at this first section, how not to pray. Don't pray as though God doesn't see you or know what you need.

3:53Don't pray as though God doesn't see you or know what you need. Prayer is communing with our heavenly Father who sees us and knows us. Prayer is not a transaction where we give to get, it's an overflow of a personal relationship. It's not a performance that we put on, but it's a practice of devotion and worship. It's not a checklist that we get to check off or scratch out, but it's a conversation characterized by love and trust. It's not a slot machine that you pull in order to get something, but it's where we enter into the presence of a holy God. So prayer is an act of worship and faith. Prayer is an act of worship and faith.

4:47So I I acutely aware of the danger this morning how not to pray. I could preach this sermon in such a way that you're more afraid of praying, more anxious when praying in front of other people, more self-conscious when you pray publicly and you feel like you should police other people's prayers. And if that is what happens, I will have failed my, my aim is that we would as a result of this time together, we would be more eager to commune with God in prayer in private and together with others, that we would be less self-conscious about how we pray and more eager to call upon the name of the Lord with our fellow brothers and sisters.

5:32My aim is that our enjoyment of God in prayer would increase and that our anxiousness and that our self-consciousness and that our self exalting temptation would decrease. So I have two main points this morning. Don't pray like a hypocrite verse five and six and don't pray like a Gentile seven and eight. And if you're just joining us last week, we said that Matthew chapter six verse one is sort of that overarching warning that's over these verse 18 verses of chapter six. Beware of practicing your righteousness to get the praise of man, the wrong motives are going to undermine the right actions.

6:17And if your motivation is to get public praise, you're gonna miss out on the heavenly rewards that God the Father gives his children. So look with me at verse five as I read it for us. And when you pray, you must not be like the hypocrites for they love to stand and pray in the synagogues and at the street corners that they may be seen by others. Truly, I say to you that they have received their reward. So Jesus sounds a lot like he did last week. He says, when you pray, meaning that he does indeed expect his disciples to pray and he says they're not to be like the hypocrites that do everything to be seen by others.

7:02Again, he's getting not just at the actions, the external actions, but he's getting to the matter of the heart. Now, in Jesus' time, the Israelites had a tradition of praying about three times a day. This would've coincided with the morning and evening sacrifice. And Daniel we see kind of has a midday prayer and he made it a pattern to pray three times a day. And praying before meals was also an established tradition. And so what Jesus is doing is he's criticizing the hypocrites who would conveniently be outta a street corner or in the synagogue so that everyone could see how spiritual they were when they were praying in those days.

7:43It was also common to pray aloud. Jews would recite the Shema, Deuteronomy six or chant scripted prayers or Jesus tells a parable in Luke 18, a tax collector and a pharisee went to pray and they were both praying out loud and and if you see the contrast in one Samuel one 13, Hannah, the mother of Samuel, she prayed silently at the temple. And when Eli, the priest saw her mouthing words but not hearing anything, he thought she was drunk. So I think the common accepted practice was that people would pray out loud. And so now Jesus takes aim at this religious tradition that had become corrupt. He condemns the practice of public prayer that seeks to be seen by others.

8:34This is a matter of the heart of motives, intentions and desires. Jesus condemns hypocrisy that prays just to be heard by others. Now he's not condemning a particular posture when he says they're standing and praying because the Bible records people who are standing and sitting and laying down and kneeling and laying prostrate standing isn't the issue. And I don't even think Jesus is condemning public prayer. He's not saying all public prayer is wrong. 'cause if he was, we'd be in trouble, wouldn't we? Jesus prayed publicly. Most famously in John chapter 17, the high priestly prayer or if we read acts, the disciples often prayed publicly at Pentecost and for healing.

9:21So standing isn't the issue. Public prayer isn't the primary issue. The primary issue is the motive of one's heart. Where is your heart disposition towards God? When you pray The hypocrites words are chosen not for God, but for the people around them and how they would hear their words, their posture was not for God, it was to attract as much attention as possible. Their location of where they prayed was to get as many eyeballs on them. They are again like spiritual peacocks who are walking around saying, look at me. Look how Godly, look how spiritual I am. You guys notice and it's rather ridiculous if we think about it and we may be tempted to say thank God I'm not like any of those hypocrites.

10:21Thankfully I don't see anyone standing on the corner of Highway 35 and Mounds view Boulevard praying you would freeze to death if you did. I haven't seen anyone at the roundabouts up on the hill here. That would be a perfect place to raise your hands and pray publicly. We don't generally have people making a scene by praying aloud here in church. No wailing, not loud crying or convulsing. But the problem of spiritual hypocrisy is not foreign to us this morning. Is it? We can be praying with others and instead of listening to their prayer, we're thinking about, what am I gonna say next? We, we can try to impress other people with our prayers.

11:04Like I want 'em to know that like I'm a good prayer or like maybe I'll recite some scripture because I just got this memorized and really want to use it. Or we can be the opposite of spiritual peacocks. We can be so anxious. So in our own heads, so self-conscious that we never pray with others. What if they think I'm a bad prayer? What if I say something stupid or we can see prayer as a duty where we clock in and clock out. I remember reading about uh, Hudson Taylor spiritual secret and he would wake up early, I think four o'clock in the morning and be with the Lord for hours at a time. And I remember in college thinking, I wanna be like that.

11:51And so I set it as my goal. I'm gonna pray for one hour every morning and it soon became rather than here is a sweet time of communing with the Lord. It was about nailing that hour or not like, oh, 45 minutes. Okay, 15 more. Let's keep going. I lost sight of the real goal communion with the father. So is prayer this morning a duty, a performance, a transaction, a goal to accomplish? Or is it communion with the Father? What motivates your prayer life? This morning, Jesus shows us that our sinful nature can corrupt our righteous outward actions. Paul writes this in one Corinthians 13, three, if I give away all that I have, if I deliver up my body to be burned but have no love, I gain nothing.

12:57The motivations, the intentions of the heart are really important. Our motives determine whether an act is righteous or wicked. And so how do we discern our hearts? The Bible tells us in Jeremiah 17, nine that our heart is deceitful above all things. And what Jesus is showing us here in this section of scripture is that sin creeps in and corrupts even the most intimate acts of devotion and worship. Our love of self creeps in when we're worshiping God. Oh wretched men and women are we. That is the danger of hypocrisy this morning if we do the right things and go through the right motions. But deep down our hearts and motives are corrupt.

13:50It's all in vain. One commentator said this, if a prayer is blind to God, God is blind to that prayer. If a prayer is blind to God, God is blind to that prayer. So what are we to do? Look with me at verse six. But when you pray, here's Jesus' solution. Go into your room and shut the door and pray to your father who is in secret and your father who sees in secret will reward you. Jesus' solution is private secret prayer. Go into the prayer closet if you will. The idea here is that if you can't pray without wanting other people to see you and praise you, take the danger of hypocrisy seriously and just pray in private.

14:45Don't even tempt yourself with those ulterior motives or an audience. Prayer is not a performance, but prayer is how we draw near to the Father with our questions and with our groans, with our waiting and our listening and our confusion and our requests and our praises and our worship and our wrestling. Jesus is not saying all meaningful prayer must be private In the immediate next section, if you just look at, glance with me at verse nine, pray then like this. Our father, that is a corporate prayer that people are to pray together. The problem is that hypocrites pray with one eye on God and then one eye on their reputation.

15:30Now, true prayer is unconcerned about our own reputation or our own social standing. But you might object, you might say, well, shouldn't I care about those who hear me when I pray publicly? Like the guys who prayed up here earlier, like they didn't just kinda wing it, they might've winged it, but they, they probably thought about it and and sometimes we write out our prayers and we craft them and we put thought into them. Shouldn't we care about other people who hear our prayers? Well I think we do in James the sick article, the elders to pray over them so that they can hear where to confess our sins to one another and pray for one another.

16:09James five 14. Jesus teaches the power of two or three gathered together and praying together. Matthew 18, where to pray to model for our children, the elders, our teaching and modeling in corporate prayer. Prayer is at one level for the other people in the room. But here's the key difference. Public prayer seeks to serve but is never self-serving. Public prayer seeks to serve others but is never self serving. Paul writes in one Corinthians that he wants his prayers to be able to be heard. He wants them to be intelligible so that others can hear it and say amen. That's one Corinthians 1416. The early church devoted themselves to corporate prayer.

16:57I personally love hearing the prayers of others in the prayer room prior to the service. Every Sunday morning I'm encouraged and built up and spurred on to love God more public prayer seeks to love others but is never self-serving, seeks to serve others. So how then do we avoid hypocrisy in prayer? I think the first application is beware of performance minded prayer. Don't use prayer as a way to gossip or show off or criticize or to feel better about yourself. By all means, pray words that edify and build up and strengthen others. So how do we avoid this performance minded prayer? I think we should ask ourselves this diagnostic question.

17:45Do you pray fervently and regularly in private as much as you do in public? Do you pray more in public than in private interested only in human praise it is your public prayer life an overflow of a private prayer life, a private communing with the father? Or is it just something you pull out to show off when the time is right? For example, if I compliment my wife a lot in private and occasionally AC comp occasionally compliment her in public, no one would accuse me of hypocrisy, right? But if I never say that my wife is likable and amazing and beautiful and terrific and humble and delightful, which she is, and I know she's just cringing at me even saying those things.

18:39But if I never tell her that in private and only say it in public, something doesn't smell right. Like what? What? What's going on there? And and I think that I is kind of at work in our prayer life. Cultivate your private prayer life and let that deep communion with the Lord overflow into your public prayer life. Cultivate your private prayer life and let that deep communion shape your public prayer life. Lemme just give a beef pastoral word here. Our job is not to be the prayer police in our small group at church in prayer meetings or elsewhere. We cannot see the hearts and motives of others.

19:19The warning here is not for us to police others like, oh yeah, Johnny really struggles with this thing. He should really take notes on this sermon. But rather that we would examine our own hearts. Our responsibility is not to monitor someone else's prayer life, but to examine our own motives and intentions. So beware of performance minded prayer and instead pray privately as much and if not a lot more than you do, pray privately as much as you do publicly. Second, how do we avoid hypocrisy and prayer? Second, it's to see that prayer is not a means to some other end. Prayer is not a means to some other end.

20:04Prayer is not about looking good or sounding smart or appearing godly. It is its own end, namely communion with our heavenly Father through the work of Jesus, his son. Now one might ask, well why does Jesus at the end of verse six here say, and your father who sees in secret will reward you? It sounds like Jesus portrays prayer as receiving some sort of external reward. And here I look to see us Lewis for help. Listen, he says, we must not be troubled by unbelievers when they say that this promise of reward makes the Christian life a mercenary affair. A mercenary is someone who would be solely motivated by monetary gain.

20:45There are different kinds of reward. There's the reward which has no natural connection with the things you do to earn it and is quite foreign to the desires that ought to accompany those things. So money is not the natural reward of love. That is why we call a man a mercenary if he marries a woman for the sake of her money. But marriage is the proper reward for the real lover and he is not a mercenary for desiring it. The proper rewards are not simply tacked onto the activity for which they are given, but are the activity itself in consummation. In other words, prayer is its own end. It is communion with our heavenly Father.

21:30Lemme see if I can illustrate this. One morning at our house, my wife went into the room of one of our children who was still half asleep and she whispered to him that she had just made his favorite breakfast, these puffy German pancakes that have fresh berries, a little bit of lemon juice and some powdered sugar. And she said, don't you just love them? And he groggy leaned over and put his arm around her and said, I just love you. And she kinda, you know, loved that moment. But I think that illustrates the attitude that should accompany us when we come to God in prayer. We're not just looking to get something, but we just love being in his presence.

22:12This is our heavenly Father who knows us and sees us and beckons us into his very presence. The reward of prayer is basking in the presence of our heavenly Father sensing his smile upon us, going to him all the way up to him because we have Jesus as our advocate and we can with confidence, draw near to the throne of grace. And this would have just stunned Jesus listeners, it was not common for a Jew in Jesus' day to think about kinda coming before their father. It was a very rare individual who would talk with God as though one we're talking to someone face to face. Maybe there was Adam and then there was Abraham and Isaac and Jacob, and then there was Moses.

23:03But then kind of radio silence after that, maybe the high priest, once a year he would go into the holy of holies with great fear and trembling. And here Jesus says, you have direct access to your heavenly Father. You can close the door, go into the secret closet because you can climb right up into the presence of your father who welcomes you by the blood of Jesus. You can meet with the creator of heaven and earth who made everything in the universe. And he says, come to me. This is both glorious and mysterious. So prayer is not about what we look like or sound like, but it's where sinners approach the throne of grace through the blood of Christ.

23:56So don't pray like a hypocrite. Second, we are not to pray like a gentile. Don't pray like a gentile verses seven and eight. Look with me at verse seven and eight here. And when you pray, do not heap up empty phrases as the Gentiles do for they think that they will be heard for their many words. Do not be like them for your father knows what you need before you ask him. So Jesus gives this warning not to pray like the Gentiles, this phrase or word keep up empty phrases, has the meaning of babbling or speaking without thinking. And I think we kind of see examples of that in the scriptures. One kings 18, Elijah has a showdown with the prophets of Baal.

24:41You guys remember this Two sacrifices put before. And Elijah being a very gracious person says, I'll let you guys go first. And so the prophets of Baal, 450 of them gather around and what do they do for the next three hours? They cry out getting louder and louder, probably repeating the same things. They even get to a point where they're cutting themselves more frenzied. So I think we could see Gentile prayer has lots of repetition. We gotta do things to make God see that we're serious and we gotta wear God down. Another example of Gentile prayer would be in the story of Jonah. You remember when Jonah was in the boat and the storm was just raging and Jonah was down in the boat asleep and the captain comes to him and says, we've all been crying out to our different Gods.

25:27Jonah, why don't you cry out to your God, not because we believe him, but because we want to cover all of our bases. Cry out to anyone and anyone to make sure we don't miss one. It's like throwing a handful of darts at a target. Maybe one of them is going to stick Gentile prayer often involved chanting and repetition and persuading the Gods magical incantations and spells and muttering the secret names of the spirits. We see this in Acts eight, where Simon offers the disciples money so that he can give other people the Holy Spirit or the sons of Skiva. In Acts 19, they invoke the name of Jesus.

26:07Other people are casting out demons with the name of Jesus. Let me use the name of Jesus. And the demon turns around and is like, I know who Jesus is, I know who Paul is. I don't know who you are. And he beats them silly. The Gentiles pray as those who don't know God. And what Jesus is saying, don't pray like that. You know God. Not only do you know God, God knows you. And not only do God, does God know you, he knows what you're going to pray. And he knows what you need. That's exactly what he's getting at. Your father knows what you need before you ask him. Not only should you not pray like the Gentiles who don't know God, don't know who they're praying for, don't know even what they're doing.

26:50You know what you're doing. You're coming to a heavenly Father who knows you, who sees you, who hears you, and who even knows your deep thoughts even before you ask them. That's how much God knows and loves and welcomes his children. God doesn't need coaxing, persuading offerings, sacrifices, special incantations. God knows his children. Who knows what this code means? Up, up, down, down, left, right, left, right ba. Show of hands like four of you. It's the secret contra code that gave I think 30 lives in this video game. It's really inconsequential. But that's how the Gentiles think about prayer.

27:41If I have the right words at the right time in the right order using the right name, then quote unquote God is going to answer. I just gotta tap into the right code. And many unfortunately can be duped into this today praying like the Gentiles Catholics use a rosary, a set of beads and will often repeat the same scripted prayers. Hail Mary Catholics also wrongly believe that they can ask saints to intercede on their behalf or eastern orthodoxy, venerates icons and lights, candles and incense. And I know we sang a song talking about let the incense rise. I don't, it doesn't smell like incense in here.

28:22It's our prayers. That's what that song is talking about. They're these prayer ropes. They repeat the same Jesus prayer. Pentecostal churches will go to loud emotional prayers and the louder the better because then God will hear with lots of convulsing or laughing or whatever else. In Tibetan and Nepalese culture, they use prayer flags and prayer wheels and they just kind of spin it. And every time you spin it, it's another prayer that just kind of goes out into the universe. And maybe somehow God will see that and honor what we're doing. And Jesus is saying in no uncertain terms, prayer is not a formula.

28:59Prayer is not an incantation, it's not a special code. There's no secret handshake. There's no amulet to rub. There's no beads to use. God is God. And we come to him in a relationship and prayer is where we commune with him in prayer. God already knows what his children need before they ask. Isaiah 65, 24 says, before they call, I will answer. While they are yet speaking I will hear so in prayer, we're not telling God what he doesn't know. We're not trying to get God to do something. He'd rather not. We're not twisting his arm. We're not muttering the right incantation. Prayer is drawing near to our loving heavenly Father who knows what we need, sees our hearts and is even using the work of prayer to conform us into his will.

29:56That's often what's happening. 'cause I'm praying the things that are on my heart and over time I realize maybe I should pray something else and and maybe the Lord's actually shaping me so that my desires are more aligned with his will. So I wanna commend to you a really amazing way to pray. Pray simple, straightforward, childlike prayers because God already knows what you need. You don't have to overthink it, you can just pray. God is not hard of hearing. He doesn't need to turn up his hearing aids. He doesn't have a DHD. He's not up there scrolling on his phone. He hears us even before we call.

30:43And, and I just love the picture of the simplicity in prayer that we can come to God with. You see this, when Jesus went to Lazarus tomb, this is in John 11, uh, Lazarus has died and he's been dead for four days. Mary and Martha are understandably grieved and a little bit frustrated and angry at Jesus. Like you didn't come right away. Jesus. We, we, we sent messengers. And how does Jesus pray? He says, father, this is John 1141 and 42. Father, I thank you that you have heard me. I knew that you always hear me, but I said this on account of the people standing around that they may believe that you sent me.

31:30That's it. Father, I thank you that you hear me. I thank you that you always hear me. And then let's go. Lazarus come out Jesus. Thanks God. We, we see just the simple prayer with confidence. And why is Jesus so confident? Because there's no, he knows his father hears him. He, he he knows his father's heart in this moment their their wills are perfectly aligned. Now Jesus is not objecting to long prayers. You see that critique of the Gentiles for their many words.

32:11Luke six 12 says that Jesus prayed all night in prayer to God or Matthew 26 44 talks about repetition. Jesus went away and prayed for the third time saying the same words again. So I don't think Jesus is objecting to long prayers or even repetition at times in prayer. But rather he objects to meaningless prayers full of gibberish and repetition for the sake of repetition. Let me just pray the same words for the 14th time. Not because I mean them, but because maybe at the 21st time he'll finally answer that is a pagan practice has no place in the church he turned that would turn prayer from communing with God to a formula in order to control God.

32:59So how do we apply Jesus' teaching here not to pray like a gentile beware of thoughtless meditation or positive self-talk or popular pseudo spirituality that masquerades as wisdom reject empty rituals and mindless mantras. Instead, we can very simply come to our father and talk to him. Do you see the glorious privilege that we have in approaching this throne of grace? You get the ear of your father.

33:37We are known and loved and we can boldly approach this throne. It reminds me of this viral clip that I saw back in 2017. It was of Professor Robert Kelly and he was being interviewed live on BBC. And you know, this is kind of before the days of Zoom, but he's sitting there and it's live on TV and he's talking about, you know, global affairs and the impact of Korea on that in particular. And his daughter in this bright yellow sweater just comes strolling in with her cute little glasses and just has not a care in the world. And then her little brother in this little walker comes scooting in as well.

34:15And the wife is just mortified. She comes running in and grabs 'em all out and pulls them out. But that's the attitude I think we should have when we come to the father in prayer with that level of familiarity where we just waltz right in maybe with a little bit more reverence, a little bit more awe, but we waltz right into his presence. Excuse me. And how does the father respond to us in the clip? The dad understandably was, you know, trying to keep his composure as he's talking about these global affairs on BBC and he kind of pushes his daughter away. How does the father respond to us when we waltz right into his throne room?

35:00I've been waiting for you. He's not saying what took you so long? Where have you been? I've been waiting for you. Come, come tell me what you need. So here's one encouragement this morning. Be honest with the Lord in prayer. You can be honest. You can voice whatever is going on in your heart. He sees your thoughts, he knows your struggles, he hears your cries. He, he sees your tears. He's not blind to your heartache or to your suffering. He understands your ambition or your anger. He knows your apathy. He knows your temptations. He knows and he sees, and his primary disposition towards his children is come draw, near come.

35:53I can't wait to hear what's on your heart. And if you're not trusting in Jesus this morning, there's a standing invitation to draw near to God. God invites hypocrites and gentiles and sinners of all kinds to come and to confess and to call out for mercy from their heavenly Father In Luke 18 where Jesus tells this parable of the tax collector and and the Pharisee, the tax collector feeling this deep sense of shame and guilt and unworthiness not even able to come into the inner court standing far off. What does he say? God, be merciful to me a sinner. That's a really good prayer. And you're invited if you're not trusting in Jesus to come this morning and to pray that prayer.

36:55He invites you into a relationship with your heavenly Father through the cleansing blood of Jesus. Draw near to God and he will draw near to you. So prayer is not a stage where we perform, but it's a sanctuary where we come to draw near to the presence of our Father. It's not about the length of our words or how many words we can string together, but it's about our heart. Disposition of trust. Our heavenly Father delights to bless us. That's the primary thing I want you to see this morning. The Father loves to hear the prayers of his children. So just come and voice them to him.

37:45Don't doubt but draw near to God with confidence. Martin Lloyd Jones puts this, writes this in regard to not doubting. We must know that God is much more ready to give us to give than we are to receive. Shame on us for being poppers beggars when we were meant to be princes. Shame on us for so often harboring unworthy, wrong thoughts of God in this matter. It is all due to fear. And because we lack this simplicity, this faith, this confidence, this knowledge of God as our father. But if we, but we, if we but have that the blessings of God will begin to fall upon us and may be so overwhelming that we shall feel that they are almost more than our physical frames can bear.

38:35God is able to do for us, exceedingly, abundantly, above all that we can ask or think. Let us believe that. And then go to him in simple confidence so we don't pray like hypocrites standing on a street corner mainly to be seen by others performing for the praise of man. We don't pray like Gentiles mindlessly with constant repetition just for the sake of repetition. How do we pray? We pray as beloved children of God who are known, who are seen, who are loved, and who are beckoned to draw near to his presence through the blood of Jesus. So let us all the more climb up into the father's lap and bring him our concerns.

39:31Let's pray. Father, make us a praying people that delight to draw near to you and private secret prayer and then delight to pray together with others. And we thank you that your heart disposition towards us is come draw near. I've been waiting for you and through that communing with you in prayer. Oh would you conform us into the image of your son? We pray this in Jesus' name. Amen.

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Matthew 6:5-8

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